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The Mask
The
next time your child misbehaves; tell him how his conduct is affecting you
and other people around him. Example, his doting Granny may not be
happy that he is not getting what he wants and is being scolded by
Mummy. His Aunty in trying to help has to force her daughter to go
out and play with him. Father is upset with his son's disobedience
and with all the commotion going on.
Do
not give in to their tantrums so that you are able to tell them that his
misbehaviour will not get him what he wants.
Write
down each negative emotions you are experiencing, eg, anger, sadness,
disappointment, etc, on the sticker.
Explain
to him what negative is about, ie, A+ vs A- as he would see in his school
work mark up, making sure that they understand that a minus sign for
emotions is not good too.
In
his presence, place the plastic sheet over your face and outline your
shape and features with the marker pen.
Remove
it, write “Mummy” above the image and start pasting the negative
emotions he has instilled on the image outlined.
Take
him to a mirror and place sheet over your face and ask him if you look
good with a face like that.
Tell
him that each time he upsets you with his behaviour, you will be adding
the negative emotion stickers to the mask.
Hang
your mask high up on the fridge door where he can see it clearly.
Proceed
to do a mask for him too. Ask
him how he felt when he misbehaved and ask him to write down his negative
emotions so that he can stick them on his own mask.
Tell
him that each time he makes you happy or make up with you, you will remove
the feelings that you no longer bear.
Ask
him to do the same for his mask by removing his own stickers.
If
he has siblings, ask him to prepare the masks for them. |
Material
Required
Sticker
(the white base) cut into sizes large enough for you to write down each
feelings.
Clear
Plastic Sheet (taken off from old school books or from laundry bag)
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